I stirred the hornets nest and am worried now...

[Not Quitting]

F4ML, just concentrate on enjoying the vacation for yourself and your kids. Your H needs to figure things out for himself.

It's hard not to take things personally. Try not to show that his comments hurt - crying in the shower is a great release and no one else sees it. Venting or journalling on here will help as well. Have you read Divorce Remedy or Divorce Busting? Also Sandi's Rules (posted in the Newcomers section).

You and your kids have to be your focus now. You need to give your H the time and space he needs to figure himself out. It's not going to be easy, you'll have good days and bad days, but if you do everything you're supposed and nothing that you're not supposed to, you'll find that you're a better person yourself at the end of it all regardless of the outcome.

It looks like you're still on moderation, so post little and often. You'll soon get off moderation and your posts will pop up right away.

Remember, nothing is going to change overnight. You're in for a long ride, so you've got to stay strong and, hard as it may be, try to keep a PMA.