first agree on what is easy to agree on. this will grease the wheels and get the process moving in the right direction.
with whats remaining, prioritize what is important to you. choose your battles.
try to make some rules as far as division: if the item was a gift from your family, you keep it. etc.
as far as pictures: scan. you can always reprint.
for items with sentimental value, divide as you can without creating issues - you dont want to create bad memories that override the sentimental values.
always keep in mind you can take new pictures, create new memories, buy new ornaments.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
