I agree with MrBond especially making arrangements that the children be with you 50%of the time.
IMO, it's not healthy for your Ds to see OM comes and go in your home while daddy is still in the house. You say OM will move in if you leave and you are concern of the crimes, etc...then the more you should fight for your children, they are better off with you at least 50% of the time.
How will you make this happen? If I were you, I'd retain a L. talk to a L about Supplementing the "unrestricted visitation" with a "schedule" that your children will stay with you 3 days of the weekday with alternating weekends.
If this is not possible then null and void the current D agreement, of course with the blessing of your L...let the L tell you more about this law:
"In Malaysia, if one doesn't show up in court in 6months after filling the joint divorce petition, the judge will consider the divorce null and void. Or the L could inform the judge of the change in mind."
OR, talk with your W and see if she will agree to your proposed "visitation schedule".
It's really concerning to me about your W's suicidal threats and tantrums, especially her breakdown when she couldn't comfort your D3. Take notes of these events. From what you post, I really question if she is really fit to care for your children full time.
Be prepared, I suspect your W will not agree to these proposals so it's better if you have a L that will talk to her L.
Take care, Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
