Good morning Cadet....Did you read any of what I wrote yesterday? Where I was talking about the fact she knows how I feel and I know she at least cares. Yes, I understand and I'm not obsessing but even her D doesnt fully understand why she isnt speaking to me some 3.5 months later. I guess though you have answered this previously. I dont recall reading what you just mentioned the fourth pillar of an MLC. Body, Spouse, Job, God. according to Jim Conway. Is there a link to read this? You sure seem to have this nailed down pretty doggone well.