Two roads diverged in a yellow wood...

[Not Quitting]

Well, he dragged me into a talk about the finances and we ended up fighting about my job and our relationship. I tried to talk to him about options and he wouldn't have it.

I am having a tough time taking orders from a man who has treated me so unkind for the past months, with no regard for my feelings. Now he wants something from me. I am sooo angry with him. I don't know if I want to live the rest of my life with him.

You shouldn't be taking orders from any man, whether married to him or not. That is just so wrong and it's not a marriage!

You need to take a step back and really re-evaluate everything. You've got to put yourself and your kids first. Unfortunately finances have a tendancy to become a major issue even when they aren't really.

Don't make any major decisions while you're angry. You could end making a decision you'll regret. If your H pushes for a decision, tell your H you need time to assess all your options and that you're not going to make any quick decisions. In terms of the job options, make a list of the pros and cons of both and compare them, including personal feelings not just the things like salary, benefits and hours.

Take the time you need to cool down and think rationally about everything before agreeing to anything.

Hope your day goes well. Try to get some time for yourself, just to chill and not think about the problems.