Oh I forgot to mention that i did have a conversation with MIL about the family reunion and she told me that I have more rights to be there no matter if we were D or not D because I have been in the family for 13 years. And she told me to stand my ground and show no fear to OW. MIL told me that a long time ago my H step dad did The same thing that H is doing right and when the OW showed up she didn't back down from OW and one day H step dad left OW and came back to the family and he never left the family every again. So I still have a small chance that H will do the something. But until then I'm still trying to move on if he doesn't.
M:42 H:37 M:14yrs S:13; S:9 Found out PA:8/2012 2nd PA & still w/OW:4/2013 H asked for D:6/2013 H moved out: 8/2013 H & OW moved in together: 8/2013