Thanks again for stopping by my post. As far as your sitch goes, I don't know what you would get out of meeting with guy friend. I believe that any insight you can get from him you should be able to get from your W, unless there is something he knows that your W is not comfortable telling you. If that is the case, perhaps it is better to wait for your W to feel that the time is right to share this info. with you. Third party conversations concern me because you really can't tell the context of how things were stated (too much room for misinterpretation).
I also would not feel comfortable being in a social sitch and not having my W introduce me properly. I don't really understand this unless your W may not have shared with all her friends that you guys are back together. The WAW's always have to deal with the fact that they now have to defend the fact that they "changed their mind" to all those they spoke about the sitch with, particularly if they painted an ugly picture of you. This emotional investment they made in their decision to leave takes some time to reconcile with the intellectual decision they have made to stay with their spouses. That may be why she is not so eager to do the proper thing and introduce you appropriately to her friends.
I also like the fact that you laid it on the line by saying it was your W's decision if she wanted to be the one you loved. I wish I could get to that point but the time has not presented itself (still no R talk). It is a very direct way of letting her know that you are extremely confident that if it is not her it will be someone else. I am sure that had to make her really think and it also sets an expectation that she needs to be fully committed to working on the M and it can no longer just be you that is making changes.
As far as your progress goes, it sounds like things are moving ahead just fine. I know you mentioned that people would be envious of my sitch, but yours is absolutely wonderful!
