Hi Tori- thank you. You have always been very generous and kind and supportive. I hope you are doing well. I think of you often too x

Labug- was rereading what you posted- yes I agree- 'until he takes responsibility for his life' - I hope I am taking the best responsibility I can for the kids until when/if he does so. This feels very awkward to me- its a new place for me- the way I feel towards H right now plus the boundaries and I have asked him to respect. I would rather right now he just stay away while he is like this... This person I do not like this person that is not these i knew for over twenty years. If I am feeling resentment towards him- disgust even--- that isn't detachment is it?

I haven't felt those feelings before in my sitch- I always just felt sad, ashamed, worthless etc. now that I have worked and feel more positive about myself- I feel much more negative about him. And I feel a need to protect myself from him now rather him rather than expose my pain and vulnerabilities.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home