Our current schedule is too chaotic. I leave for work before the kids go to school. They usually get themselves ready. My W is usually out and about, so they come home to an empty house.
I have done some soul searching and I want a different life with more structure and stability. I want to be a better parent than I have been.
My wife is very controlling, and I blamed her for this lack of structure. I always thought, "she is the Mom, if this is how she wants to live, so be it". I don't have her to blame anymore. I am beginning to see the price of this lifestyle in D14. I just want things to be different.
We are going to have 50/50 custody. Outside of tax season, we are going to alternate weeks. During tax season, I will have full custody. I am sure that at my W's house, the kids will continue the same schedule they have now. They will get themselves ready for school, and come home to an empty house.
The kids will absolutely have to step up. I will need the help.
I don't view it as being a martyr. I view it as finally having the freedom to structure my house the way I want. My house, my rules.
And since I won't have any money to leave the house, I better make the house someplace I want to be.
