No prizes for being a martyr. Does w do zero child care currently? Why is the plan for her to do zero in your scenario?
I've been doing the same thing to myself, picking up all the slack, making no demands. It's harder to demand respite, and there's some satisfaction in being "the poor good one" that i am working through and trying to exorcise. My ic has shown me the kids are better off if ii ask h to chip in and step up, demand it. I will get there. She says if i ask, and h refuses to contribute toward, whatever, doing some loads of laundry or groceries, then he should pay me for some respite. Burning myself out does no one good. How about you? Why arent you placing any expectations on w?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
