You can't. HOWEVER, you can push a little and ask him what he is still resentful of and just listen and validate. AFter he talks, go and give him a hug and tell him you understand.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.