The only reason that I can come up w/is that she feels very safe now in contacting you and your family members because she has remarried and there are now no expectations for you to think about.
Yes but, these are people that she NEVER talked too. One of them she hasn't talked to since we were teenagers. (We married young.)
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I certainly hope that they are not telling her what you are doing as it is none of her business any longer.
I don't think they are, but who knows?
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She is NOT the same person and you can see that. She is also trying to heal in HER own way. One that seems to hurt you, but it's possible she has blocked so much that she doesn't understand (at a conscious level) why you are hurt and not happy for her. Kind of like she had an emotional stroke or something.
"Emotional stroke" is very true AJ. She is nuts beyond belief. Sometimes, I'll think that maybe it really was just me and then I remember all of her craziness when this all began. I really do think she is nuts and mentally "not right." Something is definitely wrong. She even sent me a text one day from work before she moved out that said: "I know something is wrong with me, but I don't know what." What an emotional mess.
You asked about my mom.
She is not good. She knows that she is on borrowed time and has started giving things away. She wrote her obituary yesterday. Beginning tomorrow, Hospice will be coming in to help her. She fell the other day. She told the doctor today that she wants no more Chemo. She is just tired of feeling bad. She tells me not to be sad and that she is okay with dying. I felt like asking her "how can you be ok with it", but decided not to. I'm of the belief that she MIGHT have 6 weeks. This is a terrible time of year for me and this mom thing just makes me hate this time of year even more.
August 30 - Wedding Anniversary
September 23 - My brother kills himself.
October 1 - My grandmother died.
Octomber 10 - Bomb drop
October 25 - Mom's birthday and my birthday.
October 28 - S20's birthday.
Ug.....
I'm just hoping it isn't one of those dates.
She has also started giving away her money. I think the doctor gave her a time frame and she just isn't telling anybody.
She has requested that my brother and I go to Church with her "one last time" this Sunday.
God is sort of on my sh!t list right now, but I will go for her.
I'm so down.
Tad
Currently: M 57 XW 58 Sons 39,34,32,30
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
