I think you shouldn't have broken your boundary with not staying over. I realize that it is more convenient, but you need to stay strong.
I also think you shouldn't have asked if you were being blown off. Part of the reason your H has those fears is because he fears that people will perceive him differently when he does those kind of things....
... and you just played into it. Next time, just say okay and let it go.
I mean - why did you think he was blowing you off? Caz he is creating distance? Caz he knows about your date?
Make it safe for him to be himself. Yes that means vulnerability on your part - but you are working on that anyway.
Sorry for the 2x4s.. something is clearly in my water.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
