Rachelle,

Thank you so much for stopping by, you always have good advice for me so stop by often.

I hear you on not pushing too hard on the alcohol. I have good training in this from DBing, NO PRESSURE. I just worry, and I let her know how I feel with judging. She is brining it up more than I am. Maybe its a sign of her trying to sort it out.

Retrouvaille is a marriage building weekend with several meetings afterward. You can check it out at www.retrouvaille.org
Basically couples who have reconciled their marriages run the seminar on things to help you work together. It also involves a priest. I am excited about it and like the fact that you don't discuss your trouble in a group setting, they give you and your spouse time alone to discuss things after each presentation. I'll know more once we go through it. It is a Catholic program but is open to anyone, and I believe they try to keep it ecumenical.

As far as the VS idea, when the time is right, bring him with to help you pick something out. Cool thing is when you get their CC, they send a "sexier by the month" booklet with discounts each month. I told my W we could go get something for her each month, as long as we also get a sexy something for at night.

Update for today: I went to Madison to be with my W since she is staying in a hotel for her training. She said it was lonely and she didn't sleep well alone. I offered to come up each night she was there.

We had a nice dinner, and great conversation during. I said it was great when we spent time together. She agreed, but said she does need time with her friends. I said I don't want to keep her from her friends, I just want her to let me know whats going on and try to include me once and a while. She said friends are important and I should do more with my friends. I said well the way I approach that is that I value our time together the most, I plan things if I know you are doing something. I said this is just me but I prioritize things: God, Me, You, Family, Friends, and everything else. I said that friends come and go, and even does family at time, but we are forever. I give you priority above all of them because of this. I said I don't want my grave stone to read "he was a good worker or good Friend, I said I want it to read He was a wonderful and loving husband". I said I will be there for you always and that is why I prioritize being with you first.

She said that was deep, and I said that I am a deep person and want to share that with you. We then went back to the hotel. I went to the front desk for more towels and came back to my W in her new lingerie. We were affectionate to a while which lead to ML I was so nice, and we then fell asleep together in each others arms.

Things go really good when we are together. I hope this continues to grow more and more.

God Bless You, Reuben Cautiously hopeful and keeping the Momentum