Last night went well. My W had C individually that was a bit before our MC. She asked me to ride together with her which was good. As she was in C, I talked with our MC alone. I basically brought him up to speed on our sitch, and he says its going really well. We did talk about the drinking some, but we both feel its not the time to approach and hopefully she will confide in her C and she can help.
MC and I then went down to meet my W to finish the session. It was obvious that my W had been crying, probably for her whole session. I comforted her, and MC asked if there was anything we wanted to talk about fo rthe last 15 min of session. My W didn't, and I decided not to as well. MC left us alone, and I comforted my W with a big hug, as she cried on my shoulder. She told me she was scared, and I said I know because I am too. I said we will get through this together, and she nodded. After she cried a bit, she composed herself and we got up to leave. I gave her a hug again and she held on for a long time. She then kissed me and said ILY and I said IYL2.
We then headed into town and went to VS to get her new undergarments. It was a great time and she tried on a lot of sutff and showed me in the dressing room. We must have been there for an hour or so and I bought her lots of nice stuff for her, which I of course get to enjoy too!
We then went out to eat and had good conversation. She talked more about her C and said she is basically scared of everything. I asked if she was scared about us, and she said yes. I told her I understood, and I was scared about us to. I said I don't feel as scared as before as things are really going well for us right now, and she agreed. I said the time we spend together is great and is really helping, and she agreed to that as well.
She also talked about her MS stuff a bit and she feels overwhelmed by running her support group. I listened, and empathized. I told her if she needed help to feel free to come to me. I also said I was hoping we could go to the support group together. She said she understood, as I have MS too because she does (not literally, but it was good for her to acknowledge it affects me as well).
There was a lot of other conversation, and some of the drinking stuff is above. Its going well and she wanted me to stay with her in her hotel everyday she is in training. She even said she is going to have a fashion show with her new sexy stuff we bought and even ML!
I hope everyone's sitch are going as well, there is still a lot of work here, and I still have fears about her (especially the drinking and how that will affect our M going forward). And I'll end with 2 very interesting things: 1). She came into my office to talk and noticed I was on here. I was reading other post that I was repling to in newcommmers. It has quoted things I said and the reply for the thread's originators. She asked about which was what I said and I told her. I didn't hide anything. She read something specific I worte about feeling she came home beacuse of being uncomfortable in her living sitch. She asked me if I knew that wasn't the only reason. I asked why what were your other reasons. She replied "I wanted to be home with you and the cats, because I love you". I thanked her and gave her a kiss. 2). She then also saw my audio CDs for "What women want men to know", and asked about them. I said I got them because someone on here suggested that we listen to them together. She was intruiged and suggested that we do so. This made me feel good as well.
Marc, thanks for the reply as well I tend to like to relax at home because I travel a lot for work. Its how I unwind. I am getting fairly good at detaching were I just go on with my own thing when she skips out. I don't get angry because like Cathy mentioned it about her. And she knows this and I feel thats why she always says she feel terrible when she does get home. I'll check your thread out in a bit.
God Bless You,
Reuben
Cautiously hopeful and keeping the Momentum
