Harder and Harder......Part three

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W and I communicate now only in regards to co-parenting and property management. Ive realized that we both go on the defensive when the other makes an attempt at communicating to the other. Love will NEVER have a chance to happen like this.

This stuck out to me. My W and I started off not communicating much 1+ month ago when she first moved out. We had constant arguments a couple months before that. Now we seem to be corresponding via email or txt or in person on a daily basis. We're co-parenting well it seems.

W was monstering and I was reacting a lot at first, but now we're actually getting along pretty well and have had a couple decent R talks. Nothing's changed, but we're really listening to each other and learning from all of this regardless.

What I've found is that if I focus on being direct in my communication style, having no expectations, keeping my ego in check and striving to be kind, our interactions go pretty well. If any of those pillars get out of whack, things get intense and often go south. Now, sometimes intensity is OK and sometimes conflict is OK, but while DBing it's probably best to have fewer of these heated situations.

In the end is this going to lead to R? Hmmm.. I'm doubtful at the moment, but W did tell me that though she still has no love for me, she respects me more lately. Regardless, I try to remind myself that I'm changing for myself no matter what happens b/c that's what I want.

All we can do is keep our focus on ourselves and becoming the best we can be in all our relationships. In the end, something will work out either with or without our Ws. Let's keep the progress going!

ETC