I guess I'm just scared of the ever looming D date...I know people do get re-married, but...just hard to think about.
Yes, it is a bit unnerving, but ultimately, it's just a piece of paper. You can slow down the process a lot of ways....the easiest of which is simply letting your H do all the work. And there's hope even post D (seems to be working in my case ).
Originally Posted By: forlovessake
Sometimes I feel like our sitch is unique because I truly was not nearly as nice to H as I should have been. Nearly all of his complaints are valid in terms of my nagging, fighting dirty, disrespecting, and failing to show him love. He feels beaten down, disrespected, unloved, etc. There is a lot of truth to why he feels that way, as I took much of my stress regarding D's health problems and other things out on him, and failed to recognize that I was not speaking his love language even though he told me such. I read a lot of other posts on here and it seems like y'all are mostly pretty great people.
I don't think you are in the minority at all. I'm sure all of us are guilty of not being the best we can be, taking our significant other for granted, and not focusing on the right things. Some of us have been worse than others, but rarely is it all one persons fault.
The good news is that you are learning, you are seeing things you didn't see before, and you are changing. A lot of people never get to that point! Hang in there and keep the focus on you for a while.
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