I just read your entire thread. I'm praying for you. I know that your situation could have been mine easily if my W decided to stay in our house and not leave to her mothers 1.5 hours away.
I also struggle with telling my kids the truth about my W and her EA's and PA's the time will come where they will see her for what she truly is. We unfortunately cannot control them but lead by example.
I have to say that even though your situation is bad you seem to be dealing with it in the best way you know how. Your thread has given me some comfort and has also given me another person to pray for.
Keep your head up Brobafet
Me 32 W 30 Married 11 D10, S6 BD#1 January of 09 OM#1 2005 OM#2 Dec 08 OM#3 March/April of 09 Back together August 09 OM#4 May 13 W moves out June 2013 BD#2 June 21 2013 Filed July 2013 D final in Oct