OK, I have a really fantastic family and circle of friends, and I cannot imagine trying to integrate someone into this wonderful network. I have worked soooo hard to rebuild my life, and I feel that I do not want to jeopardize what I now have. Does this sound insufferably smug, or close minded?
i'm jealous - but , as ray says "love will find you" if it's meant to. ta da--- all you have to do is exist apparently-
