I stirred the hornets nest and am worried now...

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Hi F4ML

I'm like WBW - I was to married a great guy, but that's not the same guy I'm married to now. I'm not ready to give up on him yet, because I still believe he's worth it. If your H is MLC, he's not capable of thinking straight, and he'll do a lot of things that you'll find confusing and hurtful. Whether he means it or not, you may never know. Whether he even realizes he's doing it, you may never know.

Don't ever suggest to him that he's MLC, don't initiate talks about your R. Don't snoop - it's not going to help and will in fact make you feel worse.

You do have to stay strong and positive, and trust me it's not going to be easy. Your kids are grown, but you still need to be strong for them as well as yourself. Focus on what you can do for you. If your H has made any complaints, see if there is anything you can do to 180 them. GAL - find something you've always wanted to do or something you haven't done in a long time, and start doing it. Don't sit around the house waiting for your H to come around.

Keep posting and read other threads. We can all learn from each other on here. In fact, one of the best, and smartest, things I've done since BD is register on this forum.

Stay strong, stay positive.