C~ I think you are handling things very well. Her "previous life" that included the parting and staying out is still a Habit to her. Slowly she is seeing that there is a safe alternative.
She needs time to wean herself from that. You are correct in letting her know that it bothers you. But you didn't freak on her. You are setting expectations and she is learning this new way of life.
I see momentum changing and she is still very receptive to the new life. It will not happen over night, just like the rest of this process.
