That makes a ton of sense. He's basically said just that before...that he was wanting me to make these changes long ago. And I agree, much of his behavior was in response to the way I acted. Though I do also think a small part of him was a little resentful for getting married young and having a child "before he was ready" as at times he's voiced those things as well.
Me: 26 H: 28 T:8 M:5 D:2 BD:4/1/13 Separated 6/6/13 Filed separation 6/21/13 Waiting for D papers to be served, H says filed