I know how you feel, I felt the same way. What I found after doing the work on me is that I no longer care if my H voices what he sees as his responsibility. MWD says one person can change a M, I believe it is true because even though I felt that my H never took full responsibility for what he did, it is in the past and he acts a lot differently now that I am different. Does that make sense?
Your h's behavior was a symptom of the problem, not the problem. Keep focusing on you and truly become the person you are being today.
Your H is confused because you are someone new, someone he was waiting for you to be and he is afraid to trust that it is real or permanent. Relationship testing is not going to help. It is hard not to do it, however, it may push him away if he feels you are just doing this to get him back.
He said he WAS 100% done. Keep doing what you are doing for YOU, and it sounds like there is a possibility that by doing so, it will give you another chance at your M. Resist all urge to ask if what you are doing is helping, he isn't ready to commit and that is pressure.
Keep up the good work..
M 46 H 44 D 12 S 8 M 9 T 11 BD 2/15/13 "Makes sense to stay together" 5/12/13 Agree we are 'healing' 7/13 Definitely Piecing 9/13
