Yep, the girls have given me a pep talk on the do's and don'ts for this afternoon. They know that I've go a long way to go today is a tiny step on the way forward.
My D process has slowed up W seems not to be pushing it since she upped things with OM, I can’t see my solicitor until next week, I really need to get the process moving.
Today, had a great day shopping with D11, managed to find myself a lovely casual jacket, the shopping made me realise I’ve not really bought anything for myself in 4 or 5 years. I mentioned W once and D12 reminded me of one thing I had said to her previously, W business is her business not our business ( nice little mantra).
My Sunday date was nice and relaxed, my companion was very friendly and has already text me to say what a nice time she had. I don’t think it will go further but at least I’ve got some one outside my immediate circle of friends I can talk to.
I'm practising positive thinking which seems to have calmed 50% of my anxiety, still there's a long way to go in this process.
I've been with W 20 years, so yes its been a long time.
I had a debriefing session with my nieces and they concluded that I did very well and once I rid myself of W I will have no shortage of takers as I will be an exceptional catch.
I took D11 to the cinema to watch Despicable Me 2.
Very good film, however a few negative thoughts came into my head, then this song from the sound track came on Pharell Williams - Happy and it really gave me a lift.
Hi lanzo,just reading your thread. Something helped there... M h so handsome on the outside, but. There is a saying beauty is as beauty does. Even though h has hurt me and kids. I still look at and for his positives. It's strange. When h acts nice I am so hopeful, but really it's more so for his own benefit.
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No second date schedule, but I will be speaking with said lady this weekend. To be fair to her and any other lady no date can be significantly progressed until the D is completed and W is out of the way.
Willbewell, I have been been dazzled by W's beauty ( or my perception of it) for 20 years and it has got me no where. Also after seeing her with OM I look beyond that now and see another couple that are currently interfering with my life, my future, but they will soon be gone.
I met with my solicitor today and reviewed previous agreements.
My solicitor says if I meet W demands (54% of house equity, and I pay half her legal fees £400) things will be concluded in no time. I could try to argue this down, but if it was put before a Judge he could award her up to 60%.
So I’ll just go with it and she’ll be gone by end of October.
On a lighter note W told D11 that the cat will stay with me and she’ll come back daily to feed it . (I say hell no to that).
