Very well said AnotherStander, very well said.... I am obviously working through my issues in this sitch and at this particular time having a tuff time doing so. Just when I think things are going somewhat well, my own storm starts raging AGAIN. I used to be confident and never relied on anyone except for myself. I am trying really hard to get that back. But, after 12 years with someone you thought you knew.....I know what I need to be doing here thanks to all the excellent people on these boards. I have been using this to expose my weakness(s) instead of showing them to my WAW. Yes, I slipped a couple of times with her but not to a big extent. Remember, her and I have only been emailing no phone convo's or in face meetings. Truth is she knows I care and even though she is in this thing of hers fog, storm etc. I believe she to has some feelings. Yes, obviously she has walked from our marriage but like you said anotherstanding, this is not a true reflection of who she was or really is. I think the real problem is no matter how long I stay quiet towards her (which I have basically been doing) she is going to know I still care about her. She may not feel the exact same way but, I know she cares at least somewhat. So maybe, this is where everyone says it takes time and very possibly lots of it. This is why I have been so curious about the script that Cadet has made me aware of. So now I am completely convinced she is indeed scripting like so many others. It's just good to know where things are currently when you able to do so. Even so, one must continue GALing, 180 etc....
