Just a follow up question, if somehow we do have plans set and she breaks them, what would an appropriate response be on my part? I don't want to come off as weak or a nag anymore but I also don't want to keep taking it and there be no response.
That's why you need to keep it low key. If you set up some weekend getaway with reservations then it's an ordeal if she breaks it. But if you're just going to dinner and she changes her mind, you just shrug and say "OK" and leave it at that. No big deal.
