Bright: I will not initiate any contacts with W or do any temp checking. The next step is up to her. So I'll go dim this time around.
Originally Posted By: Fartiltre
I understand that you have been in this for a looooong time, but now doesn’t seem like the time to stop – that’s just to me
F: On that day, I had a clear light-bulb moment. I suddenly realized that why would I want to expend my energy on someone who is a half country away from me and living with OW to even make a crack. At this point, it does not even feel like a reciprocal friendship that is "working" well. It just feels one-sided and I'm not liking it at all.
Originally Posted By: Fartiltre
I love this statement because all it means is that the expectations are gone and the feeling of freedom is back! But still…..well you get my drift!
Exactly. Time to put the focus on ME and what I really want. Be around people who want a friendship with me and enjoy being around me. Not some phantom in the background.
Originally Posted By: kate's_place
My playbook works for me and it seems like it is time for you
Ruby: Yes, time to play like Tigger!
Originally Posted By: kate's_place
And not bad for Ms Wonka to realize your card is full for the next while, cuz I have no freaking doubt it will be
Not sure about this. Ms. Wonka won't know all of this because we don't communicate about our lives and she's a half country away from me. Doubt she even cares about what I actually do these days as evidenced by nearly 9 years of no contact.
Originally Posted By: RealityTrip
I would see me backing off (in moderation) in your position too. IMO, I would want to see if Mrs. Wonka pressed on with contact.
RT: We shall see. We wait and see for the next text Ms. Wonka initiates. Probably not until the end of August or early Sept.
Originally Posted By: RealityTrip
. "Together" is not always happy. Bury any expectations in a glacial ice cave,
So true. We just never know until we hear the facts from Ms. Wonka. Time will tell.
Summary:
It feels that I have a really bad rotor cuff from all that bashing with my ice pick on that 9-foot thick glacier and I need to lay off to heal it.
So I'll just putter around my tiki-hut (or is it igloo?) for a bit until I hear from Ms. Wonka.
