Yep, it's very tempting to look at the sum of the bits you're getting and try to convince yourself that your spouse is really *in* when in fact they are *out* and deep down you know it.
My W was expert at figuring out what the minimum was she needed to contribute, and doing exactly that. Painful way to live my friend.
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
