I'm going to proceed with setting something up for her birthday with her mom, we'll see where it goes. If for some reason things really go south then I could always cancel the plans if it came down to it.
With the anniversary I'm going to see how the next week or two go before thinking about that again. I feel if I were to propose something as simple as dinner for it at this point I wouldn't be shocked for her to respond with "Why are we celebrating?" I'd rather get on a little better ground before broaching that topic.
Just a follow up question, if somehow we do have plans set and she breaks them, what would an appropriate response be on my part? I don't want to come off as weak or a nag anymore but I also don't want to keep taking it and there be no response.
In the meantime, I need to focus on calming down and doing my own thing if she's off doing hers, and even when she isn't. Sitting around stewing or pouting about it gets me no where except coming off as weak when I can't control it. A simple question such as "Do you need a ride?" turns into mess of an argument and I hate feeling like this.
M: 29 W: 29 T: 12 years M: 4 years Discovered OM: 02/10/12 ILYBNILWY: 03/01/12 W Moves Out: 05/04/12 Reconciliation Starts: 09/06/12 In-house Separation (Again): 03/09/13
