Turtle Goddess she of the hard shell soft

[RosaLinda]

Wow J, poor OW, facing flack from her H for having an A with YOUR H! Well fancy that! What does OW and her own H propose to do about it? She might make the decision for your H!

"H feels my position of there being no room in our M for OW - in ANY capacity - is unreasonable. But I think he started to hear me, that I have no intentions of being with him while she is in his life.

H has no problem at all thinking and even expecting me to be in his life along with OW. He doesn't see at all how she takes from our M. In fact, he rationalizes that because she makes him happy that should translate to our M also being happier. (Doesn't seem to work the other way. My unhappiness doesn't affect H.)"

Yes, that sounds like Newman Hart's description of his own position during his own MLC. I think he has a new blog for men in MLC, something like "the house on a rock" or "a house on the rock"? Newman wrote that he woke up suddenly, like Wonka did. Not slowly like rH's H did. I'm rooting for the sudden awakening for all of our Hs!

Anyway, if we look at your H's thought processes wearing T2's goggles and white lab coat to protect us from any icky craziness getting on us, that statement in itself is proof that your H is in a MLC, if there was any doubt! My H is under the same delusion. We should both be perfectly happy living with our Hs as best friends, and just thrilled for them that some OW makes them happier! It makes your head spin. As if I wasn't nauseous enough already from this double vision!

Your unhappiness does not seem to bother your H, but maybe your H is bothering OW's H since he is giving her flack! We can just hope! I think your H is going to wake up one of these days, either on his own or with a little push from OW's H, and come out of his MLC tunnel! I just hope for his sake that you are able to keep hanging in there that long. If not, his loss.....

That is a great poem J, thanks for posting the entire thing. It made me cry!