Hello Cadet, glad to see you comment....So, with everything you see here, my WAW is definately following the same script as most all others going through this? I would like to ask though, if my W is saying things like if u can live a year without someone then you can live the rest of your life without them and who knows what the future holds, this is script for the most part also?
I agree with Rick, you've got to quit trying to mind-read your W and interpret everything she says. Imagine her mind right now is a raging storm. If you go in there, there's insanely high winds, stuff flying around all over the place, water obscuring your vision, noise so loud you can't hear yourself think. It's confusing and it's scary. That IS what's going on, you may see a calm, collected facade on the outside, but inside that storm is raging. THAT is why you're not supposed to believe anything they say, because what they say is just stuff flying out of the storm when they open their mouth. It's not a reflection of the "real" them, it's a reflection of their confused state.
All "script" means is she will say and do things similar to other WAS's. It doesn't mean there's a roadmap you can pin on the wall to see where she is on the timeline. You can't. Each WAS is unique and each travels their own path. She may want to reconcile in a week, a year, 5 years, or never. You can't and won't know until it happens. That's why DB'ing focuses on YOU, because that is all you have control over. Work on yourself, tranform yourself into the spouse only a fool would leave, and give her time and space to settle the storm.
