I think I remember reading somewhere back in time, that the 180 of doing chores (ironing, washing clothes/dishes, etc) means nothing to the spouse.
I think Sandi said that was the case with her when she was nearly a WAW, her H did these things and it had zero impact on her. My W said something similar when we were in MC, she actually resented me taking over all the chores, she felt like I was trying to push her out of the house by showing that I didn't need her. The point isn't that we shouldn't do 180's on things like this, it's that we shouldn't expect our changes to make a difference to a WAS in the short term, and in fact in the short term changes may actually make the sitch worse. It's like 25 says, consistent actions + time = change your S can believe in.
