I HAVE SOME GREAT NEWS! but you'll have to read to the end to find out.

MC went fairly well yesturday. My W didn't have much to bring up as usual, and I didn't want to bring up my stuff yet (boundry stuff). So MC asked how things were going. MC asked on scale 1-10 how do you feel about your M. I said 6-7, and my W said the same. Then after a bit of talk from MC she actually said more of a 7-8. I was really suprised by this. MC said I must be getting some of my needs met, and I corrected him and said I actually have my needs on the back burner and I am letting W dictate when she spends time with me. MC understood and said W needed that.

W talked about her missing dinner last night and how she felt bad and crappy about it. MC said I handled it great and didn't let it be about me, and W only had herself to look to for her decision. I said yes, I am trying to make our home comfortable and safe for my W to come home to. I hoped it would be more by doing so. MC agreed it was a good thing to do. MC then went into my W feelings about MS and having to take care of her mom for so many years. Then asked me if I uderstood. It was a good discussion.

MC also talked about our different roles, like my W is more short term and doesn't like to plan things, where I am more long term and a planner. MC said that works well for a couple to have those roles, but they need to communicate them and thier thoughts.

As we left the session and I paid, my W gave me a kiss in front of several people. I was even her individual C. It made me feel really good. I later told her this. SHe went her way to run errand and get dinner.

W came home early from errand, which suprised me and she even commented on the fact she was early. We had dinner and a good talk. Then we relaxed most of the night watching TV. I washed her clothes for her to get ready for her 2 nights away for training. Then when we went to bed she snuggled up close to me.

This morning W got up early to get ready to leave. I got up before she left to help her load her stuff. I kissed her good morining and asked how excited she was to go to training for her new job. She said she was. I then told her how proud I was of her and I was excited for her too. She then thanked me and said I was the best on behind her. I asked "yeah?", and she said you are so proud of me and makes me feel really good. She asked if I was going to work out (because I had on what I usually leave in) and I said no. W said ah so you woke up just to take my stuff out for me. I did so and warmed up her van and brushed the snow off.

When I came in she was in the kitchen about to go out the door. She was looking right at me lovingly, and held out her left hand to show me she had her wedding ring on. I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT! I went up and hugged her and she told me she loved me and we kissed several times and hugged a lot. I thanked her and told her I love her so much, and that is the best thing she could have done for me today. We kissed again and she went off to her training.

I just can't believe it. I haven't even talked about her ring hardly at all. She hinted at it a few times, but I haven't asked her to wear it for so long! It don't know what exactly made her put it on today or why, but I don't care she is wearing it.

The look in her eye to me was like she was saying to me "I love you and want to commit to making our M work." I really felt it and I know we are going to make it through this. We still have a lot of healing to do, but I really feel that with this sign from her and God, that she is here to stay and make this work.

I am happier than I have been for so long. I just had to share and hope you find as much hope in this for your sitchs as it does for me, because I like to read all of your sucesses to give me hope.

Take care and hope your days is as good as mine.

God Bless You, Reuben Cautiously hopeful and keeping the Momentum