Is this cake eating 14

[labug]

Yes, and some people can be so slick at this as to make you love them while there pushing the knife in further.

You did know a sweet guy and you loved him. He is no longer that person so you can make a case to yourself that you have no need to feel conflicted.

Personally, I'd get a restraining order to keep him from contacting. When people cross boundaries so blatantly sometimes outside control has to step in to stop that.

Can you get some kind of counseling? Some one to guide you through dealinng with his, let's call them antics, would be such a help.