Thanks for dropping by. Yes this is going great, and I also feel comfortable where I am at also. It is hard when my W is out on the town without me, but it doesn't bother me nearly as much now that we are starting to connect again. I think I have gotten to a level of loving detachment, and know in my heart she will want to spend more time with me later down the road.
Thank you all so much for the encouragement, and water you are abosultely correct. I wish things were moving even faster, but I then realize shes only been home a week today and it is progressing quite nicely.
Postives so far today.
- W made me breakfast and we are still eating together at the table and saying grace.
- W let me hug her while she was at the sink and even let me touch her romanticly when I asked.
- W let me hug her again from behind after I helped her get ready after her shower, and again let me touch her romantically, and even hinted at possibly more fun tonight
- W gave me more than a peck when she left to go run erands.
Things are going so good. I can she is starting to feel connected to me again. She doesn't spend as much time with me as I'd like, but right now my needs are on the back burner as I just want to be connected with her again.
Thanks again for all the support, I'd wouldn't be here without all of you and God.
Goals:
1). DO NOT ASK OR EVEN INSINUATE WANTING INTIMACY!
2). DO NOT LET HER KNOW WHEN YOU ARE DISCOURAGED!
3). NO R TALKS UNLESS ANISSA BRINGS IT UP!
4). DO NOT ASK FOR STATUS CHECK, LOOK FOR POSITIVE BABY STEPS AND AFFIRM THEM WITH HER.
5). CREATE AN ENVIROMENT OF TRUST. DON'T READ INTO THINGS AND TRUST HER AS IF WE HAD A STABLE M.
6). DON'T LET MY FEAR OF HER BEING SOMEONE I MY NOT WANT TO BE WITH CLOUD MY SEEING HER WORKING ON OUR M. DO THIS BY FOCUSING ON THE THINGS SHE DOES THAT MAKE ME FEEL LOVED BY HER.
God Bless You,
Reuben
Cautiously hopeful and keeping the Momentum
