I'm not sure myself Stung, I am probably at this same point. I'm sure someone will come in with a better answer for you, in the mean time, sending you positive thoughts!
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope