I woke up bound and determined not to answer any work day texts today unless I was specifically asked something about the baby. As expected I got a random checking in/small talk text by mid morning and I successfully ignored it! +1 point me
By afternoon I got a follow up text "is everything ok?!??"
Drats, i guess I can't really "go dark" on my H when I could go into labor at any time because 'worry' doesn't equal mysterious... -1 point
But then something interesting! My H asked me if I'd like to get lunch tomorrow when he drops by the house. I wondered how long he'd stay tomorrow, but asking in advance to do lunch on top of getting his stuff... Way more than I was expecting.
I replied that tomorrow might not be good and that I might have to take a rain check. We went on to exchange several more TM's that made it obvious that he was in a good mood and eager to meet up. Very different vibe than the last time he wanted to get together when he seemed panicky/guilty. I have a much better vibe going into whatever happens this week. Pull up some pop corn, should be interesting.
Notes to self in advance of seeing him: sloooooow-it---down. No getting too excited over anything good or bad that is said. Validate, validate, validate. And, keep things light, like friends out for lunch saying hello.
Wish me luck (and patience)
BD: Aug 2012 Separated since May 2013 S born Aug 2013 Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out' H is/was actively seeing someone?