Things starting in right direction, NEED TIPS!

[marc_d]

Reuben,
Well, I have some good things to say and some comments but I mean no harm by them! Ill get the bad out of the way first. When C came home and leaned up against you in bed and said hi, it seemed like she was happy to see you and wanted to feel close to you and I think bringing up "R" talk again was not the best choice after she said she might not come home. After all, she wasnt coming home at all before when she was living elsewhere, so you must be grateful for all the nights she is with you. And, she is just staying with a friend. Dont read into this. You must show trust in her and make her feel trusted! Luckily, it doesnt sounds like it was a major stepback and she seems very dedicated to making things work but what I hear. It may not seem as much to you because you are still a little needy, but in my eyes, its HUGE!!! No offense about being needy, because Im in the same boat!

I think it was also great how instead of staying over a friends house, she even came home early! I know you arent too happy yet, but I would do anything to be in your situation now. I know things always look different from someone elses perspective and I think it looks great!

Most of your problems you are having is because she is home, now you want all of her instead of a little at a time. Because when she wasnt living at home, you probably appreciaed any type of contact with her, and now look at you compared to where you once were. Such big steps!! Be happy for them and realize that it took time to get to where you are now, it will just take a little more time but you can do it! Keep the faith and I think you are doing better at controlling your fears. Maybe you should do some reading on this topic?

I just also ordered a book called "What Women Want Men to Know" by Barbara De Angelis. Its got good reviews and i hope it can help me understand my special woman on a deeper level. This may help you too because maybe the fear you are having is from not understanding her completley yet. Just a thought. Best of luck to you!