Thanks hotwheelsaust for the advice. When I went on a mens treat - she kept asking me who was going to do the chores around the house since I was going to be gone for several days. As far as focusing on the big issues, being available and there for the family was the biggest. So now I go to all my daughters events, any family gatherings and offer to do things as a family and if my wife says no - then I just take my daughter. I agree on trying to stay positive and upbeat. I made these changes so fast (literally in about 3 three weeks instead of gradually) that she thought I was being fake for the first month and a half but now sees that the changes might be real. I must continue to be positive and consistent without being needy (my big problem)
