Okay, I have some questions that given where we stand might be silly or a continuation of a lot of what I described previously on my part but I need to figure out how to handle these situations, especially if I'm going to stop pursuing and moving forward some way:
-- How do I approach things with friends or people that ask about her behavior? Despite her apparent need to blow me and some of our friends off to go out drinking with whoever, she still is close with our friends and they are concerned about her and ask me about it. So far, depending on who it is, I've either said that I don't understand it or that they should ask her directly about it but I haven't gotten into too much detail beyond that. -- Our anniversary is coming up the middle of next month. Part of me feels like trying to get us to go somewhere for the weekend, away from the distractions back home. That's not to say they won't be there still when we get back but potentially make it an opportunity for us to re-focus or perhaps it would end up being an eye-opener for me. -- Same issue the following month, her 30th birthday is coming up. Her mother and I had been talking about trying to put something together for her. -- If we do have plans to do something and for some reason she breaks those plans, what would be the best approach? I'm tired of putting her on the defensive because that is then her flipping the behavior back on me. -- To date, she's resisted going to marriage counseling or talking to someone with me about our situation. I know there is a school of thought that if she's so detached at this point, MC might not be the best place for us right now. Is there another way to spin it to try and get her to go? At this stage, is it beneficial at all?
M: 29 W: 29 T: 12 years M: 4 years Discovered OM: 02/10/12 ILYBNILWY: 03/01/12 W Moves Out: 05/04/12 Reconciliation Starts: 09/06/12 In-house Separation (Again): 03/09/13
