I think I may be back in denial a little bit about them. I guess I'm just afraid that if I never bring it up and H and I keep moving along and get past this, that he will think it's okay to do this again (EA or PA) in the future since there have been no consequences this time. However, I also know that if I confront him, etc., he will most likely deny and lie and that will set us way back so I don't want to do that either.
I can't remember... are you in counseling or using a DB coach? Sooner or later you and H will have to address these issues but not until you are BOTH ready. Otherwise you are spinning your wheels and making a bad situtation worse. I know it stinks and I know sometimes you just HAVE to know and WANT to know and you may even want to use Ruby's Whack-A-Spouse game... and it's soooo not fair being on this side of it! But you are doing an amazing job and if you can keep your cool, follow the DB principle's of everything "counter-intuitive" you'll get there! Fingers crossed!... and if you don't, you'll still look better, feel better, be stronger... and that's what really matters!
So I asked about a counselor/therapist or DB coach because maybe they can help you with the feelings or urges to expose... or even tell you if you should? Or Should not!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
