Thanks for the reasurance's marc. Yeah we had a good discussion about it in MC, and I feel that my W understand a bit more now that I got to explain that I never did that when I was secure in our M. I think she realizes now that it will get better over time, and as I get to know them better and trust her more.
It was also good for my MC to let her know that she will for a while have to make an extra effort to help me through it by paying extra attention to me in those situations. I hope she does so as I get throught this. I think she will as she did when they were not there.
The other advise the MC gave us was to not go into until after the evening. The talk with eachouther about how it went and what we can do different if it wasn't good. We made the mistake of going into it at the event, and not afterward. With the emotions high for both of us it wasn't as productive as it could have been if we waited until after we got home.
Well, I appreciate you sharing that tip from your MC. I think I need to practice this myself, but not sure if I can talk it over with my GF even after the situation yet. But, If I can manage to get through the event, things will be easier.
I hope I am closer to reconciliation soon so that I may feel more able to communicate with her like you can do. But, For now I will promote our friendship and hopefully that will be all we need.
