When I started to go to school I did hardly any chores around the house, was absent from my daughter's events, etc. Now I do 100% of the laundary, most of the cleaning and have been very active in my daughter's life (taking her to dance class, helping her out with homework, and just doing fun things together). I use to be very tight with my money and now I am more loose - I took my family on two vacations the last month and a half without complaining about money. I've been very postiive and upbeat around her (other than this past weekend when I backslide). Apart from that, any other free time is spent studying.
This morning she told me that she felt like she was in a prison and that I don't give her her space. I don't know if this is in reaction to this past weekend or if she's felt that way for a while - so I am going to work on being more distanced. Not picking up the phone each time she calls, avoiding her when I come home and allowing her to initiate/come to me. Give her as much space as she needs without asking her what she is doing or acting like I miss her/want to spend time with her.
Most of the time my wife is out of the house when my daughter and I are home (unless its past 9 pm then she is normally home) - so its hard to GAL when my daughter is always with me but that's okay - showing my wife I am a great dad is one of my 180s and addresses a major concern she had of me.
This past weekend she told me she is frustrated that she is not losing weight - so I told her we can start working out in the morning - so I will start doing that this week. Yep, this is going to be a tough journey.
