2old, it is very important that you stop obsessing about every little thing she says or does. All of it sounds like script. The more you think about her the less time you spend on yourself. No one knows what is going on with her other than her not wanting to be M to you any longer. Sorry to be direct. I had a hard time hearing that also but it was true for me. Being honest with myself helped soften the shock of the reality.
I'm not saying that she won't come back or that you won't reconcile. I'm saying stop waiting for her. And continue to post and ask questions. Doing that helped me through this stuff.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
