Things starting in right direction, NEED TIPS!

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Reuben,
I want to let you know that you are not alone in this and I have had the exact same problems as you with being around my GF and her new friends in social events, and Im the one that gets neglected. I wish I had an answer for us to solve this problem. I do feel that this is only temporary though and we must remember this!

After some time, if we can keep a staright face, they will want to pay more attention to us than these friends of theirs. Keep the faith, and I think that letter isnt too bad. It is not pushy at all and I wish you luck in your situation. Dont quit now, you are so close!!

Thanks for the reasurance's marc. Yeah we had a good discussion about it in MC, and I feel that my W understand a bit more now that I got to explain that I never did that when I was secure in our M. I think she realizes now that it will get better over time, and as I get to know them better and trust her more.

It was also good for my MC to let her know that she will for a while have to make an extra effort to help me through it by paying extra attention to me in those situations. I hope she does so as I get throught this. I think she will as she did when they were not there.

The other advise the MC gave us was to not go into until after the evening. The talk with eachouther about how it went and what we can do different if it wasn't good. We made the mistake of going into it at the event, and not afterward. With the emotions high for both of us it wasn't as productive as it could have been if we waited until after we got home.

Thanks again, and link your thread I can seem to find it.