Things starting in right direction, NEED TIPS!

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Rachelle,

Thank you so much, I really needed that. You are so right. I had expectations that she could never meet with her coming back. I can't get caught up in her alien speak. I guess I have a fear that she has changed into someone I may not want to be with and that really scares me. I just have to remember right now she is still dealing with a lot, and needs to sort things out before I see the woman I love again.

Now this is probably a big NO NO, but I wrote a letter to her. I am leaving it so she can see it in the morning when she gets up, I plan to go to the gym (to help be away during the hornies). Here is what I wrote, hit me with the 2x if necessary.

Anissa,
I just wanted to appologize for last night. You are right to be upset at me for feeling discouraged. I want you to know I don't feel that often. I am really encouraged by the positive changes you have done for our marriage these last several days. You spent several wonderful dates with me that I loved. YOu spent the nights with me and made me so happy. You moved back in with me and I appreciate that more than word can describe. I do know you want our marriage to work, and so do I. We can do this together and have a wonderful, happy, loving NEW marriage together.
Love, Reuben

I just had to write it to let her now that I am not discouraged. I can't let her come down to where I am when I feel down. I have to stop looking for reassurances.

Goals:
1). DO NOT ASK OR EVEN INSINUATE WANTING INTIMACY!

2). DO NOT LET HER KNOW WHEN YOU ARE DISCOURAGED!

3). NO R TALKS UNLESS ANISSA BRINGS IT UP!

4). DO NOT ASK FOR STATUS CHECK, LOOK FOR POSITIVE BABY STEPS AND AFFIRM THEM WITH HER.