Wonka: The Two Towers

[BrightFuture]

So, you are not going to do the temperature check once in a while? Or, you still consider occasional contacts initiated by you?

[Fartiltre]

Wonka,

Thanks for filling me in!

I am the newbee here and I couldn’t, wouldn’t and shouldn’t try to give you advice but still I dare you 

I haven’t got all off your background but I have been following you in here for the last weeks and I have definitely read a lot of positives in your posts. Then this sudden turn around and I didn’t understand it: what happened, why now and so on hit my mind. Nothing but Ms. Wonka mentioning something in her life, that you already knew about, happened.
I understand that you have been in this for a looooong time, but now doesn’t seem like the time to stop – that’s just to me!

So do fill up your dance card but leave a space on it for Ms. Wonka and keep on all the work you have been doing! I like you and I am for certain not alone in here feeling that way! You will have your card filled quickly but who knows about that empty slot!

I am done with this glacier cracking

It sure looks like a fine crack to me!

Enough is enough

I love this statement because all it means is that the expectations are gone and the feeling of freedom is back! But still…..well you get my drift!

It is now up to Ms. Wonka to do the work

Agreed, but you could lent her a hand once or twice or…..

Wonka, I do wish you all the best and hope you will keep on posting!

F

[JuneReN]

My playbook works for me and it seems like it is time for you

It is also time for H to realize the world does not revolve around him. Woe be the discussion if I ever find someone I want to spend time with, because I won't be introducing my 14 yr old to anyone for a good long time. Which means H will be stepping up in the custody dept. (an issue that I have not pushed much at all) and having to spend alternate weekends with D.....

[JuneReN]

And not bad for Ms Wonka to realize your card is full for the next while, cuz I have no freaking doubt it will be

[RealityTrip]

(((((((((((wonk))))))))))) I would see me backing off (in moderation) in your position too. IMO, I would want to see if Mrs. Wonka pressed on with contact. Hey... Maybe she and OW live in the same pasture my W and OW live in... LOLOLOL!!! Know what I'm sayin'? ... "Together" is not always happy. Bury any expectations in a glacial ice cave, I'll pick you up in my hot air balloon and we can "observe" our W's sitches from a safely detached distance!

[Wonka]

Bright: I will not initiate any contacts with W or do any temp checking. The next step is up to her. So I'll go dim this time around.

I understand that you have been in this for a looooong time, but now doesn’t seem like the time to stop – that’s just to me

F: On that day, I had a clear light-bulb moment. I suddenly realized that why would I want to expend my energy on someone who is a half country away from me and living with OW to even make a crack. At this point, it does not even feel like a reciprocal friendship that is "working" well. It just feels one-sided and I'm not liking it at all.

I love this statement because all it means is that the expectations are gone and the feeling of freedom is back! But still…..well you get my drift!

Exactly. Time to put the focus on ME and what I really want. Be around people who want a friendship with me and enjoy being around me. Not some phantom in the background.

My playbook works for me and it seems like it is time for you

Ruby: Yes, time to play like Tigger!

And not bad for Ms Wonka to realize your card is full for the next while, cuz I have no freaking doubt it will be

Not sure about this. Ms. Wonka won't know all of this because we don't communicate about our lives and she's a half country away from me. Doubt she even cares about what I actually do these days as evidenced by nearly 9 years of no contact.

I would see me backing off (in moderation) in your position too. IMO, I would want to see if Mrs. Wonka pressed on with contact.

RT: We shall see. We wait and see for the next text Ms. Wonka initiates. Probably not until the end of August or early Sept.

. "Together" is not always happy. Bury any expectations in a glacial ice cave,

So true. We just never know until we hear the facts from Ms. Wonka. Time will tell.

Summary:

It feels that I have a really bad rotor cuff from all that bashing with my ice pick on that 9-foot thick glacier and I need to lay off to heal it.

So I'll just putter around my tiki-hut (or is it igloo?) for a bit until I hear from Ms. Wonka.

[JuneReN]

She will know. I think. We all have ESP when it comes to these things.

[RosaLinda]

Wonka "It feels that I have a really bad rotor cuff from all that bashing with my ice pick on that 9-foot thick glacier and I need to lay off to heal it.  

So I'll just putter around my tiki-hut (or is it igloo?) for a bit until I hear from Ms. Wonka."

Oh Wonka, nine years is a LONG LONG time to chip away at a glacier with an ice pick with so little positive reinforcement in return, even for the DB champion of the world. I'm worn out after four. You just need some rest, some fun and a massage. I'll bring over the body warming massage lotion and some more pina coladas, and we'll get you rested up and pepped up, both emotionally and physically.

Ruby "She will know. I think. We all have ESP when it comes to these things."

I am SURE you will hear from Ms. Wonka soon. She has an ice pick too. A little one maybe, but she's going to miss hearing from you and start chipping at that glacier from the inside out!

I just heard someone on TV claim that if you do something for ten years, you just can't help being successful at it. So there!

[RosaLinda]

PS do you live anywhere near NJ?

[specialk]

It feels that I have a really bad rotor cuff from all that bashing with my ice pick on that 9-foot thick glacier and I need to lay off to heal it. grin

Yes, Wonka! Take a breather from all the hard work (and stress) and recoup. That 9-foot thick glacier will certainly still be there later, so why not take some time to collect your thoughts and weigh out all your options on how to proceed