I say this with only the best intentions,and as a freind.
Slow down, she has only been back for a few days. Be the man she wanted to come home to. She came home because she liked the new Reuben. You liked him to, so keep being that person. The rest will fall in line. It will be hard work, but you can do it!
Hope you aren't mad, just want you to take your time and enjoy W being home.