Hi DFE, first of all you are not a fool and you are not a jerk! This happens with my H all the time. Whenever I think we're making progress, he says something that affirms the fact that we're still separated.
My H never wants to come on family trips with us, so for your H to want to do that is confusing for you. I've always invited H along to our family trips, but I'm not going to anymore. I'll wait until he invites me along which may be a long time waiting.
I can never understand these WAS. I've read a lot of sitches and some actually still hug and kiss when they say goodbye. They act as if everything is fine and rosy but they go back to their place at the end of the day.
Me and H did spend an afternoon together whilst my son was at a friend's house. He wanted to come with me to the advice centre but I said to him I don't think that's a good idea as I'm talking about my finances as a single person. He always spends a good half hour on the phone everytime he rings, but actually now I think he's timing it, lol. When he comes round here for a coffee, he'll stay half an hour for a chat as well.
Time to start being really busy without him DFE smile Don't go on any more family outings for a while or go on 2 out of 5 like in Sandi's rules. Take nothing for granted anymore. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you frown I hope the days that follow will get better smile

H47 me48
T22 M21
S20 - Got high functioning autism
3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her
11/2000 H moves back home
2/4/13 H moves out
H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!