The tide is turning

[Mimi00]

I understand what you both mean about LMBT... I was referring the book in regards to the piece about respecting your self.

As far as the cheating thing goes, I have always found it interesting how people bend their own values in order to do what they want. Ultimately, you can only control you....so make that choice for yourself and leave H to make his own choice.

To me LMBT had similar suggestions to DB in that, at a certain point you just have to let go and let the WAS work through their issues and make their choice, while you work on yourself and are better whatever choice they make.

I think making the statement that you are "the wife and not the OW competition" is an example what LMBT was mainly about....taking a stand for yourself and not being a doormat for your H and his OW, but also knowing how to balance that with love. I hadn't read your first thread, so I assumed you were already doing DR/DB for some time now. Sorry if my suggestion was off base. Only you know what's best for your sitch, all the best to you as you continue your journey.